The depth of your relationships determines the richness of your life.
7 powerful insights (I wish I knew earlier) to build meaningful connections:
1/ The 15% Rule
↳ Why: Connection happens at the edge of your comfort zone.
↳ How: Share something that feels slightly uncomfortable - about 15% more than you usually would. Not so much that you feel unsafe, but enough to deepen the connection.
2/ The Ladder of Inference
↳ Why: Most relationship conflicts happen because we jump to conclusions about others' intentions.
↳ How: When triggered, climb down the ladder. Start with raw data ("You missed our meeting") before jumping to interpretations ("You don't respect my time").
3/ Net Worth vs. Net Contribution
↳ Why: Strong relationships aren't about keeping score - they're about creating value.
↳ How: Focus less on what you're getting and more on what you're bringing. Are you making deposits in your relationship bank?
4/ The Exchange Structure
↳ Why: Real connection requires both people to engage at the same level of openness.
↳ How: Match the other person's level of disclosure. If they share something personal, respond with similar depth.
5/ The Three Levels of Connection
↳ Why: Most relationships stay shallow because we never move past small talk.
↳ How: Progress from situations (weather, news) to opinions (thoughts, beliefs) to feelings (hopes, fears, dreams).
6/ The Power of Feedback
↳ Why: We can't grow what we can't see. Feedback is the mirror we need.
↳ How: Ask specific questions: "What could I do differently to make our interactions more effective?"
7/ The Trust Triangle
↳ Why: Trust isn't just about reliability - it's about creating safety for vulnerability.
↳ How: Build all three corners: sincerity (be real), reliability (do what you say), competence (deliver quality).
These insights are from "Connect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues" by David Bradford and Carole Robin and brought to you by Omar's Desk.
What's your #1 tip to connect with others?
PS: We are wired for connection. It’s not just a want—it’s a need. Building deeper relationships taps into our core human nature and leads to a more fulfilling life.
