"I need to figure this out myself.
"This phrase was a constant refrain in my mind, deeply ingrained from my upbringing.
Growing up, I was taught to value self-reliance above all else and, inadvertently, to see asking for help as a sign of weakness.
This mindset, I've realized, held me back in more ways than one.
In my relentless pursuit of independence, I missed countless opportunities to accelerate my learning and growth.
There were moments when a simple question could have saved hours of frustration or unlocked new understanding.
But my stubbornness to go at it alone, to not 'bother' others, as well as my ego kept me from these insights.
Worse still, when faced with topics I didn't know or fully understand, I often chose silence over inquiry, letting my lack of knowledge solidify rather than leaning in on curiosity to learn.
More importantly, I overlooked a fundamental truth: asking questions and seeking help is a powerful way to connect with others.
Each interaction is a chance to deepen a relationship, to show vulnerability and build trust.
Now, I strive to balance this equation.
While it's crucial to be considerate of others' time, it's equally important not to let ego stand in the way of asking for help.
Before I default to 'figuring it out myself,' I pause to ask: "Is this a moment to reach out?"
More often than not, the answer is yes.
PS: By embracing our vulnerability and seeking help from others, we open ourselves to a world of growth and connection.